By Leslie Ludy in Answering the Guy Questions
What does a warrior-poet truly desire in a woman? It’s not a pretty face, a perfect figure, or a charming personality that will captivate his heart. Rather, it’s complete abandonment to Jesus Christ.
Just look at these inspiring responses from some God-fearing young men when I asked them what they desired most in a woman.
Mystique. Looking at a woman and being mystified by the depths of her soul. Looking at the surface and seeing beauty, kindness, gentleness, peace and joy, but knowing it doesn’t stop there. Knowing that the heart and soul of the woman is a never-ending well, full of these gifts that triumph in all circumstances because she is Christ’s dwelling place.
A woman who is solely focused on Jesus. A woman who intimidates me by her depth in the Word. A woman who cares more about what Jesus thinks than what the world around her thinks. A woman who has such depth that I will have to spend all eternity diving into the mystery of who she is. A woman who is focused on me before we even meet (as in not giving away her heart or body to every guy that comes her way and feeling no need to flirt and attract attention – but rather, she is treasuring the mystery and majesty of who she is). A woman who is entirely selfless. A woman who does not point to and lift up herself but continually shifts people’s focus to Jesus. A woman who would rather spend time with Jesus than with me.
A woman who loves God more than she loves me. A woman who relies on Him for her strength and not on me. Granted, I want her to love me greatly, and I desire to be the kind of man she can trust and rely on, but God must be her rock. A woman who is completely sold out, wanting nothing more and nothing less than God’s will and Christ’s power in her life is remarkably attractive. A man seeking after God truly cannot help but be attracted to a young woman who is also seeking God with every last ounce of her strength.
– Jeremy, 20
Love, reverence, and obsession with her Lord. Love, support, encouragement, and even accountability toward me when it’s necessary. Spiritual purity and a love for Christ so big she might burst.
– Josh, 21
Purity, loyalty, and joy. But not for me – for God. A woman who desires to keep her relationship pure, loyal, and joyful with her Prince of Peace will then keep her relationship toward me pure, loyal, and joyful. All things that she does for her King, she will, in essence, be doing for me as well. A living example of the love of God and a lily among thorns.
– Rich, 24
A genuine, close relationship with God. This means she is constantly praying. It means that she doesn’t depend on the world (or even me) for her happiness, but only her Father. It means that she is loving and merciful because she is spending so much time with Love Himself. It means she isn’t living a fake form of Christianity, and it means that she has her eyes set on the right goal. And if her life is right with God, then all the other aspects of her life will be in good hands.
– Tim, 21
A woman who won’t settle for anything less than Christ’s best. No matter what pain or uncomfortable feeling comes, she is willing to bring up any issue if it brings God glory. A woman who can challenge a man to love his Savior more is one of the most amazing and attractive qualities a woman could ever have. A faithful woman of prayer is someone I would love to spend the rest of my life with because I know there would never be a boring moment. Jesus is not boring, nor are the things of His kingdom! To spend the rest of my life advancing the kingdom with my future wife would be the greatest adventure any man could ever embark upon.
– Brandon, 26